Seks and Love Part 3

Here are some reasons why many men fail in their bedroom:

(1) Men assume women want the same things as they do

This is very normal because most of the time we do not really know what other people are thinking. In trying to figure this out, we sometimes assume that others have the same thinking as us. This creates a lot of misunderstanding.

When comes to seks, he will think that the rhythm and intensity of his penetration is probably what she wants when he is making love to her. This will also lead him to misinterpret her sexual signals.

(2) Men follow blindly on the sex tips

Some guys really do make an effort to understand women and want very much to satisfy them sexually. They read women's books or magazine articles about sex tips. They check out women's magazines to find out what women are talking about and what they say they like. They hear about some lovemaking techniques that claim to drive all women wild.

The problem is what they are reading is about what one particular woman likes and the reality is women are grossly different in their sexual preferences. Not only that, what a woman likes can also change drastically with her mood and emotional state. It can change even more when she is with a different partner. With a different man, the chemistry changes and she is no longer comfortable with the same type of lovemaking that used to please her in the past.

Failure to realize that not all women are turned on in the same way will lead these guys to get frustrated with themselves and their women because they do not understand why the sex tips do not work.

A good way to avoid this problem is you should only try out a sex tip or lovemaking technique, which when read it, really turns you on. If on the other hand, you are applying a sex tip because someone told you that this will guarantee to keep your girl high, it can seem weird to her. She will probably sense that you are using her as a guinea pig to "try out a lovemaking technique" instead of being involved in making love with her.

(3) Being overwhelmed with some unfounded insecurities

Some men worry about being not attractive or sexy enough. Others are concerned their "working tool" not big enough to satisfy females. These worries affect men's sexual performance and confidence.

For a woman, your ability to feel at ease with yourself is the biggest turn on. She can feel your confidence and this earns her sexual trust which allows her to totally surrender herself and reaches orgasm.

In a woman's eyes, a guy who is comfortable with himself, who accepts his own sexuality and is confident about what he wants to do and what he enjoys in the bedroom is a great lover even if he does not read any sex tips or he does not have a big "sex weapon" between his legs.

To give a girl an intense orgasm there is only one sexual act that cuts the mustard and that is cunnilingus. Intercourse can give women orgasms but unless you are a stallion between the sheets then these orgasms are few and far between

Hope your woman receives some pleasure from those tips to give a girl an intense orgasim, I know mine does.